Finding happiness

During the fall of 2013 Mrs. M and I attended a workshop in Ecuador which covered the basic topics of Happiness, Freedom and Wealth. One of the presenters (who also happened to be the host), Cheryl Reed, led a class on happiness. Specifically, it was about discovering what you are most passionate about.

She gave us a test and the instructions were simple: make a list of 10 things that bring you happiness (your passions). Then, compare each list item against the others to determine what your personal top 5 passions are. These are the things that would be essential for you to lead an ideal, happy life.

Mrs. M and I filled out our own personal lists of our passions and without peeking at each other’s papers this is what we came up with:

Johnny’s top 5 passions:

  1. Being with my family
  2. Laughing
  3. Building and maintaining friendships
  4. Educating our children
  5. Financial Independence

Mrs. M’s top 5 passions:

  1. Spending quality time with my family
  2. Catching up with my mom
  3. Reconnecting with my best friend
  4. Being well-rested
  5. Making memories

What we discovered through this exercise:

The first thing that I realized was that I have an excellent spouse. Well, I obviously already knew that, but it’s refreshing to see proof that we have similar passions and that our minds are in the same place.

I also realized that everything on our lists — short of financial independence — is FREE. It doesn’t cost anything to have a great time with family or friends. Laughing is free. Making memories can be accomplished anywhere, anytime and at little to no cost.

It also gave us a good perspective on the future life that we’d like to lead.

Since we took this test almost six months ago we’ve refocused our lives around creating happiness. We’ve become more social and have been building and maintaining existing relationships. We’ve been traveling to see our families more and calling them over Skype whenever we can. We’ve been coloring, building and dancing with our kids. And we’ve been hosting a game night every couple of weeks at our house.

We realized that we don’t need to be financially independent to complete any of these things. We don’t even need to have money at all to find happiness. Happiness is obtainable, and the answer to your own personal happiness is probably sitting right in front of you.

We also realized that we are extremely happy in life. We have a great family. We have legitimate, obtainable goals. We work our asses off to be the best people, friends and relatives that we can be. We try to help other people, and we’re teaching our kids to behave and to eat well. We travel. We laugh. A LOT. We are happy without even trying. But after realizing what our passions were it made complete sense why we had felt so fulfilled all along.

As for the well-rested part. That may not happen in the near future, especially with three kids running around the house, but it gives us something to look forward to in our eventual early retirement.

Find out what you’re most passionate about.

You should take a few minutes and take this test too. The exact instructions for the Passion Test can be found HERE.

After you know what you’re truly passionate about, ask yourself if you’re devoting as much time as you could to each of your items. If your #1 passion is doing puzzles, then ask yourself if you’re doing puzzles enough. If it’s something that’s unobtainable, ask yourself “why”.

Could you devote more time or energy to your passions? Do you have to set money aside or take vacation days to live your passions? Could you change your lifestyle so that you were able to base your life AROUND your passions (and not the other way around)?

If you start acting on your passions, you’ll find that you’ll live a happier, healthier, and more financially satisfying life without even trying.

What are you passionate about? I want to know. Leave it in the comment section below.

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